Spring Cleaning turned Summer purge

 

 

 

 Has your spring cleaning itch happened yet?

I've been there for a bit now that the sun is out I've been cleaning out the fridge, the bathrooms. I'm starting a pile! HUGE PILE of clothes to get rid of. My closet has become quite overwhelming at this point. I need things to go like yesterday. I am starting to feel like a hoarder. 

Since I have the summer off Spring cleaning has turned into a summer purge at this point. It's ridiculous. I'm getting rid of so much stuff. Things i've held onto for years whether its clothes or kids toys or whatever. If we haven't used it its out! 

Maybe we will end up living that minimalist lifestyle. I don't even feel like we have that much stuff. But when it's all piled together it just gets out of hand so fast. With another move on the horizon for us I hate just moving it from one house to another house. Never even pulling it out of a box. 

If you are interested in the clothes from any of my outfits. Check out my closet on Poshmark

 

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Things I learned in my 30's ....so far

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm fairly new to the 30's gang. Right there in the middle. In fact it's so new that I actually keep forgetting how old I really am. People ask me how old I am and I have to think for a moment before I blurt out the wrong age. My kids are getting to the point where they will gladly remind me of my age and how "old" I am. I don't feel old though, I feel exactly the same age. My mind has just grown, aged like a fine wine I suppose. I appreciate all the lessons learned, all the healing that has gone on throughout the years. 

So much so that I wanted to compile a list of things I have learned. Not just to share but to have a reminder right here when I want to go back and look. 

 

 

 

*I have learned that there is no competition. Each person was given skills, talents, etc and in Gods timing for them that's when they will succeed in what is meant for them and their life.

*Stay in your lane. Mind your business. Pay attention to what's going on in your own life. Don't worry about what other people are doing.

*Everything you tend to not like about yourself or that you are insecure about will end up being cool or trendy after awhile. So don't sweat it!

*Stay away from toxic, unhealthy relationships/friendships they will suck all the joy out of your life. 

*Boundaries are so important. Figure yours out and stick to them. 

*Having good friends that will check you and hold you accountable is a good thing! 

*Don't be afraid to try new things and go to new places. There's so much out there in the world that we are meant to experience. Don't let fear hold you back.

*It's ok to not have a credit card, car loans, etc. Don't feel like you have to keep up with other people. Slow and steady wins the race.

*Trust in your gifts they were given to YOU for a reason. Don't doubt yourself you have a story to tell, that will inspire others.

*Stress will literally make you sick and take years off of your life. 

 

* If you make fun of yourself, or put yourself down. You are giving everyone else permission to do so too. 

I know that I am not done learning things. There's so much more in life, more people to learn from. Take the time to learn, see, hear, absorb, and heal.

Cheers to the 30's club!

Women supporting women

 

I've been thinking a lot about the term "Women supporting women".  In my entire life I have only had a few friends who really embodied that term. Ones who will go above and beyond to show support for you, be your biggest cheerleader. Free of jealousy, comparison, and drama. Why is that so hard to find? Why is it a term so hard to grasp for women. I know there is the part where you don't feel good enough where you are at. Whether its professionally, physically, spiritually etc. There's always going to be that mentality tucked down deep down inside, that someone is better than you or that they have a life that you want. 

It's time to break free of that mindset and get to working on yourself. 

I think when we are fulfilled in our own lives, focused on doing what God has called us to do, then we can't even see what other people are doing. 

 

After a very difficult month. I realize even more now the importance of having your people. There's no time for us women to cause problems with each other. Not when we are dealing with our own day to day stuff, or dealing with real life issues. 

It goes back to the golden rule "Treat others how you want to be treated". Seems simple enough right?

I completely understand being pitted against one another. Maybe it starts in our youth. You have friends who ditch you because they like someone better. You get dumped for someone else in a relationship. It’s hard to get through those things. I wish it weren’t like this. I wish we could bypass all that time that it takes us to get to the place where we are confident in ourselves. So that we can know that we are worth so much. We are valuable. Maybe that’s the foundation of the issue? 

I’m so glad that I have a group of friends who support one another, encourage each other. It takes time to find the right people you can trust, that you feel safe with. Just know that they are out there. You just have to look for them.

I got nothing.....

    I've been trying to think up new things to blog about. I've been having trouble. You could say its writers block. You could say I'm losing interest. It could be a combination of the two. It's not that I have nothing to say. I'm just having a hard time curating things that I feel might be interesting. It's hard to write posts when I feel like I'm talking to an empty room. Is blogging becoming obsolete? Should I just focus more on my social media. People seem to like short and sweet videos over long pages of content to read. What's the world coming to these days? I like TV and Movies as much as the next person. But I do love to read and write. Are people even reading anymore? I also love discussing things. Having an open dialogue. What about you? 

Comment below so I know you guys are still out there?

 

Real Talk

 I'm ready for some normalcy. I feel like I've been stuck in this house for years. I know I have done some traveling. I'm getting ready for my 4th trip out of the home in a couple of weeks. But it still feels like I have cabin fever. Maybe it's the uncertainty of things still. "I want to go to this place but are they open?" and "What are the new hours of this place?" or "Why are the store still out of stock of so many things?" I can't even get my kids some shorts because I can't find them. You can't try anything on so you have to make multiple trips back to the store to return things. Only to find they are now out of stock of all those items. I know, I know real world problems here. There are people dying all over the country. There are people out of jobs and yes Black lives do matter! 

There's a call for some normalcy and a call for some change. This is the most chaotic, abnormal, strange, anxious, depressing year ever. 

We leave in this new uncertainty. This is our new normal. All those feelings I just mentioned. That's how I felt this whole week. I swung my mood around so crazy my own head was spinning. 

Now that I'm coming back down to my own reality. I am realizing some things. 

You have to fight for the good not just for other people. For yourself, in yourself. It's literally a constant battle. We are taking a hard look at ourselves and we have to fight to change it. Change all the negative in your life. Even the negative you tell yourself when you're alone. You whisper it to yourself. You hear the words in your head. 

Stop comparing.

Stop criticizing.

You are not a failure.

Block and shut down the things that trigger you. Trigger those bad feelings. 

Confront the bad feelings in a relationship. 

Take everything one step at a time.
Be productive in the smallest things.

Be optimistic instead of pessimistic.

Feel the joy in everything around you.

Walk, run, sleep, watch a sunset/sunsrise

Plan a trip

Make something/ Be creative

Dance

Laugh.

Matthew 11:28 

Come to me all who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest for your souls.

1 Peter 5:7

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Hebrews 4:11

Therefore let us be diligent to enter that rest so that no one will fall. 

...and well all else fails turn your dress into a duster/vest/jacket.

Have a great weekend all!