Ghosting

 Now in the past I’ve discussed toxic friendships. But we have never gotten into ghosting, or being ghosted. 

It’s something that I half understand and half don’t understand. Why a friend will just up and not talk to you anymore without a word or explanation. They just disappear into the night. What do you do with that? 

Do you confront the issue, show up at their door? Do you let it go and move on?

What if you are an over thinker and it keeps you up at night wondering what you did wrong but are paralyzed on how to fix it. No matter how you deal with it ghosting can hurt. More than a first date situation. You have spent so much time and so many months or even years into a friendship only to have it gone with no word. That hurts! I’m not saying it doesn’t. I don’t have all the answers this is just an observation post. I have had a few friendships that ended this way. If that’s what you even want to call it. There is a grieving process. Something important to you ended abruptly. 

They say not all friendships are meant to last. But you can’t help but take it a little personally. 

I’ve been an army wife for 16 years now. I’m used to starting in a new place for a couple of years or less only to move again and say goodbye to those friendships. 

I used to be really hurt when friends wouldn’t stay in touch. But now I feel grateful when I have those 1-2 friends that still stay in contact with me from each duty station. I’ve always cared a lot (maybe too much or too deeply at times). So, I always felt like I wasn’t important enough to that person. That’s a lie! I believe now the real friends are the ones that will push through those army moves and stay true as a friend. 

I know I am probably guilty of this. I will admit I am really good at cutting people out of my life sometimes. You pair that with my loathing of confrontation. It can seem like I don't care. I do care! I'm not sure thats everyones reasoning for ghosting. Sometimes the ball has been in someone else's court and they just missed their turn and I didn't reach out. Regardless of who's "fault" it might be. The reality of it is then too much time has passed and no one wants to be "that"  person to reach out first. No one wants to admit anything. No one wants to have those hard conversations. Unfortunately, the hard conversations are what makes us adults. But who wants to be that right?

If you change your perspective on friendships then it might hurt a little less. There's a season in your life where you have certain friendships. You can grow apart or it can be a toxic situation. All friendships though are something we can learn from. Whether it's a lesson of who we don't want to be. Lessons of what you want out of a friendship. Life lessons that they can teach you from their own experiences.

What's that saying? "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." - Dr Seuss

DIY FLORAL WALL

I have to admit I love having my own office/studio. Our last house it was all open. I needed to be able to close the door for sure! With all the recording I'm doing constantly, writing, etc I needed to not have any distractions. A little haven if you will. I loved being able to be creative and create my own personal space. All girly and simple. A bit different then the rest of the house. It's almost finished! A tour will be coming soon!

 

BLOGIVERSARY

This past week was my blogiversary.

 I can't believe I have been blogging for TEN YEARS!! What started out as something to showcase my outfits, do little DIY projects etc, has evolved over the years. There's definitely been ups and downs. I have had a great outlet to share my thoughts, family adventures, my creative projects, etc. I have been able to continue to practice my writing. 

There's always the awkward part of putting your life in the public eye. It always opens you up for negative comments, unsolicited opinions, people copying you, and so much more. 

This has been the “social media” before the social media for me over the years. 

I'm not even sure if people read this thing anymore. Not when you can see images on instagram, listen to the podcast to hear my thoughts on things. But I do appreciate the people that have stuck with it with me over the years. 

I'm not sure what the future will bring but until then. 

Here's to what started it all and I give you another outfit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Restfulness

 Took a week off of work. I was in desperate need of a recharge. Doing this thing on my own has been overwhelming to say the least. 

It made me think of different ways you can rest. 

1: Sleep in. {Don't set an alarm, keep it on do not disturb, turn it off entirely}

2: Stay in PJ's all day and do absolutely nothing. {Devotional/Bible time}

3: Let the kids watch TV all day {So they leave you alone}

4: Do some light cleaning {Maybe a small project that you have been putting off.

5: Journal {Do a brain dump of all the thoughts and feelings that are stressing you out}

6: Take a shower/bath and binge watch something on your personal device. {Top it off with some kind of dessert}

Teacher appreciation

 A lot of kids have gone back to school already. Some go this week. Some have another week or so.

I now have so much more appreciation for teachers. Every year there has been new things I’ve learned that they do that has me in awe. First with remote learning and how difficult that was just for my kids but the lengths the teachers went was so amazing. And how quickly they adapted to the new norm.

Fast forward to last year when I started working at a daycare. Man! That can be so exhausting. Towards the end of the year I took over the preschool class and was actually teaching more. I am definitely not a teacher but I am a mom so that definitely helped. A lot of work and planning went into it. I’m so thankful for the people who have the great ideas and put them on Pinterest.

Here we are at the start of a new school year. I had the whole summer off. I know it will be my last here before moving again. So I know this is short lived. But I have been busting my butt with my co-lead teacher in preparation for this first week of school. Printing curriculum, classroom setup, logistics, schedules, organizing closets, and cabinets.

I accidentally revealed to everyone that I’m an organizer and I’ve been tasked with such things already. It’s been insane but I’m glad I can help others not be so stressed. I am exhausted!!
I’m not even teaching the hard stuff like “real” teachers!

Shout out to all the teachers that I know. As well as the rest of them. This is no easy job. They should be getting paid way more!

Get your kids teacher a little something today. I guarantee they need it already. 

Here we go again

As I’m writing this my room is a disaster. Full of clothes, suitcases, gear, etc. I can’t even see the floor.
I’m checking off things off the list and stressing and worrying about what is going to go wrong while I live that single mom life…. Again.

No this is not a divorce post, or even a deployment post. This is just a weird chapter in our lives that we swore we would never do. We chose to live separately while he does the Sgt Major academy. A year long school in Texas.
We never would’ve chose this if our lives weren’t where they are now.

The kids are getting older and have a routine, a system. And on the backend of covid and remote learning and all that came after that. Uprooting and moving for a year just to turn around and move again.

So, here we are. Dreading the move, yet wanting to get it over with. I am treating it like a deployment in my head. It makes it easier that way. But also planning out our visits through the months, busying our schedule with activities and what not. It definitely makes the time go by faster.

Now I’m off for another getaway. Going to the mountains with my man for an early anniversary trip.

I highly recommend doing that with your spouse. Prioritize your time alone together. Even if it’s not a big trip just a weekend or week or whatever. Even if you need to do a "stay-cation". Go someplace within a couple hours but do something you’ve never done. Life is too short to just sit at home doing the same old thing. We already did that during quarantine right?!